Be kinder to yourself. Compare yourself to you yesterday and nobody else
Posted: Fri May 23, 2025 2:06 pm
Be kinder to yourself.
Compare yourself to you yesterday and nobody elseBeing bullied causes massive amounts of anxiety any time that you are near the bully, but if that bully is yourself then you can’t get away.I have had a neuropsychologist and also a therapist I saw privately that both said the same thing, that I need to be kinder to myself. I have always had a really low opinion of myself and see others as so much more advanced and more interesting than myself. This is probably because I’m comparing myself to people without a head injury, people that don’t have any neurological challenges, so obviously they are going to be faster and more efficient. As for being less interesting, well you’ve had a massive life changing injury, that’s what makes you an interesting person but its what you go on to do that makes you an inspiring person.Stop aiming for perfection and the end product, change happens slowly, a bit at a time so don’t get stressed that you haven’t made a lot of progress but make yourself a to do list of all the things you need to achieve, write everything on there no matter how small and mundane. Aim to do one thing from the list per day, any more is a bonus but don’t go mad and burn yourself out but limit yourself to 3 things in one day. Your to-do list should always be changing with things being added and getting ticked off all the time. Keep it somewhere you can see it often (because if you have an injured brain then you will forget!).Don’t worry about your progress, don’t worry that you haven’t done what others have done. Worry about being consistent and trying to tick 1-3 things off your lift every day. Worry about being better than yesterday, it won’t be fast, but if you stay consistent, then the change will happen.
Compare yourself to you yesterday and nobody elseBeing bullied causes massive amounts of anxiety any time that you are near the bully, but if that bully is yourself then you can’t get away.I have had a neuropsychologist and also a therapist I saw privately that both said the same thing, that I need to be kinder to myself. I have always had a really low opinion of myself and see others as so much more advanced and more interesting than myself. This is probably because I’m comparing myself to people without a head injury, people that don’t have any neurological challenges, so obviously they are going to be faster and more efficient. As for being less interesting, well you’ve had a massive life changing injury, that’s what makes you an interesting person but its what you go on to do that makes you an inspiring person.Stop aiming for perfection and the end product, change happens slowly, a bit at a time so don’t get stressed that you haven’t made a lot of progress but make yourself a to do list of all the things you need to achieve, write everything on there no matter how small and mundane. Aim to do one thing from the list per day, any more is a bonus but don’t go mad and burn yourself out but limit yourself to 3 things in one day. Your to-do list should always be changing with things being added and getting ticked off all the time. Keep it somewhere you can see it often (because if you have an injured brain then you will forget!).Don’t worry about your progress, don’t worry that you haven’t done what others have done. Worry about being consistent and trying to tick 1-3 things off your lift every day. Worry about being better than yesterday, it won’t be fast, but if you stay consistent, then the change will happen.